01 October 2007

The Idea of Progress Will Return Soon

I was woken up on Sunday morning with the news that my grandfather had passed away. Some of you have lost loved ones at some point in your life; I've lost a great aunt a few years ago, but my grandfather was the closest relative who has passed.

He had been suffering from Alzheimer's for a couple of years now. I rarely saw him--he lives (lived) in Pittsburgh, and I'm in Chicago--perhaps once a year or so. One visit I saw him and he was fine. I later learned that he had shown symptoms of Alzheimer's. The next time I saw him he was quieter, more withdrawn. The visit after that he was barely there at all.

I'll be seeing him for the last time tomorrow.

I'm not here to write a eulogy for the man. He was a good man, and well loved. That's all any of us could ask for on this earth. When I die, if I'm remembered the same way, I'll be pleased with that.

I'm in Pittsburgh right now, and I don't know if I'll be able to write again before I return. Do me a favor, though. Today or tomorrow, do something nice for someone. Hold open a door. Say 'bless you' when someoen sneezes. Let someone make a left turn out of a parking lot.

I'll consider that a tribute to my Grandpa Sam.

19 comments:

pistols at dawn said...

Godspeed, sir, to you and yours.

McGone said...

Sorry to hear about your grandfather. Best to you.

Grant Miller said...

Nice post.

Valerie said...

My condolences to you and your family.

Dr.evil said...

Sorry to hear about him, my grandfather on my moms side died before I was born, I hate it when you can't spend enough time with them and then they die in the middle of a good time

Chris said...

My condolences. We'll be here when you get back.

Johnny Yen said...

What a nice way to remember him. I'll do that. I'm sorry for your loss.

Laaw-yuhr said...

Nice indeed. I'll be sure to do something tomorrow for Sam.

Belinda said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. Cherish the moments you shared with him, as I'm sure you will. And what a beautiful gesture to pay tribute to his memory - he must have been a proud grandpa.

The Guv'ner said...

Good vibes to your granddad's final journey! I'm sure he'll be remembered with much love. And good vibes to you as well, naturally!

Bubs said...

I'm sorry for your loss. Your post is a good tribute.

Take care of yourself.

katrocket said...

You have my deepest sympathies. My mom passed away a few months ago and I understand how difficult this time can be. I'm very sorry for your loss. Take care...

Chris said...

I'm off to do something nice for someone and think of my grandpa (who also passed of Alzheimer's).

red said...

I've lost assorted great-aunts and uncles, one actual aunt, and my college advisor, who I was very close to. None of that hit me like losing my Grammy in July of last year. She was probably my favorite person ever.

The doing something nice tribute is a lovely idea, and I'll make that happen for you, but I'll also say a few prayers, 'cause that's what I do. If it's not what you do, I still hope the good vibes are felt. Virtual hugs.

The Ambiguous Blob said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Leonesse said...

My sympathies. I hope your family is a real help right now.

Evil Genius said...

Lost my grandmother to Alzheimer's. It was hard to deal with. My sympathies.

I have held open a door and said "bless you" today.

mimi said...

I let two pedestrians walk today when it wasn't their turn. And I did a friendly wave out the window to them.

Cheers Grandpa Sam!

thirdworstpoetinthegalaxy said...

I know I'm a bit late on this one, and it's a bit cliche to boot, but I'm really sorry to hear about this.